God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference…
Today I made a conscious decision to STOP WORRYING about the things that I can’t control and FOCUS on the things that I can… like what I’m shoveling down my throat. I’m a stress eater and the stresses of 2016 have me tipping the scales in the wrong direction. Like many of us, I know what I SHOULD eat… I just don’t.
So after slogging my way through Zumba, I made a beeline for the grocery store and stocked up on fruits, vegetables, herbs, and snacks. I’ve never done meal prep before but today I decided to give it a whirl.
Every time I felt worry creep in today I just said “Praise God… or Hallelujah” and kept cooking.
Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?
So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
Prepped for the Week
Carrying excess weight is a direct reflection of my faith. If I believe God as much as I say I do, then why am I stressing? As I embark on this journey, it’s not about shedding pounds, but shedding worry. And I believe that as I shed worry, my body will respond to a harmonious spirit, making me lighter physically and mentally.
Christmas was never my favorite holiday, but it was certainly one that I enjoyed. I actually love to give gifts, but not for the sake of gift giving. I enjoy the search and the creativity of garnering meaningful gifts and the look of surprise, appreciation, even tears when the recipient opens it. But over the years… something changed. Slowly, but surely Christmas became less about the joy of giving, family, friends, and winter wonderlands, and instead turned into a less meaningful corporate cash grab and social media showdowns over “whose kids got what latest toy that would be broken and forgotten in three months.”
I remember the moment when I had truly had it with Christmas. It was about 3-4 years ago when a big box retailer decided that they were going to open their doors ON THANKSGIVING. I will admit that once upon a time, I was guilty of poring over sales papers soon after Thanksgiving dinner, strategizing with my mother and sister about which Black Friday sales we were going to hit, who was going to be the designated placeholder in line and how we would maximize our time and money. You would have thought we were auditioning to be contestants on Supermarket Sweep. Nonetheless, it was still family time…time to enjoy the last vestiges of Thanksgiving before getting swept up in the chaos of Christmas.
But once that retailer opened its doors on Thanksgiving, it set off a chain reaction of one after another encroaching on our day of thanks. Halloween has barely ended before the commercialism of Christmas completely drowns out even a cursory acknowledgment of the holiday that focuses on gratitude and appreciation for what we already have.
As I enter my third year of not bothering to put up, let alone decorate the Christmas tree, I feel compelled to offer some alternatives for people who, like me, once enjoyed the magic of the season, but have become ba-humbugged and bummed out about the corporate cloud of greed hovering over the Christmas Holiday. Here are 10 alternatives for celebrating Christmas without succumbing to the call of the cash register:
- Serve the Needy
Not everyone has a roof, a warm bed and a hot meal to enjoy on Christmas. Grab your loved ones and head out to your local Food Pantry or Soup Kitchen and serve Christmas Cheer to those less fortunate
2. Adopt a Family
Does your child REALLY need a another video game? American Girl isn’t the only 18” doll on the market. Redistribute the cash and adopt a family in need for the holidays. You can buy gifts on their wish list, supply their groceries, or alleviate the anxiety of the holidays by inviting them over for dinner and recreation.
3. Christmas Karaoke
“Hang all the mistletoe; I wanna get to know you better…” Choose your favorite holiday snacks and drinks and invite your friends over for some off-key Christmas caroling.
4. Holiday Movie Marathon
There isn’t ONE season that goes by where I don’t look forward to A Charlie Brown Christmas. Make a list of your family’s favorite holiday movies, pop some popcorn, grab the blankets and snuggle up for a movie marathon. A couple of years ago, my daughter and I discovered The Mistletones with Tia Mowry and LOVED IT! If you prefer to head out for a show, I highly recommend Almost Christmas… It was hilarious!
5. Ugly Sweater Party
Who among us hasn’t seen a co-worker wearing some cockamamie Christmas concoction replete with antlers, snowballs, and bulbs that ACTUALLY light up? Dial up the ugly and get ready for a fun night of selfie-taking and memory making.
6. Paint & Sip
While the kids are playing with their new gadgets and gizmos, pull out the Sauvignon Blanc and your stash of canvases, brushes, and paints and host a Holiday Themed paint and sip party. Laugh, drink, snack, and show off your new artwork to your friends on social media.
7. Give the Gift of Time
If you’re prone to living life on the go, take a week off for the holiday and spend time helping your loved ones prepare for dinner and guests. Scour your local Groupon and Living Social Deals for Holiday Lights exhibits, Christmas plays and Family Friendly outings.
8. Head Outdoors
“…Come on it’s lovely weather for a Sleigh Ride together with you.” Plan a day of sledding, skiing, or ice skating with the family. Finish the day with a Hot Cocoa Bar with all the fixings for a decadent cup of chocolate.
9. Go on Vacay
Trade your snow for sand or warmer weather by packing up and heading out of town. Spend Christmas soaking up sun rays, playing a family friendly game of football or enjoying shops in restaurants in a small town away from home.
10. Cater & Catch Up
As much as we might love and appreciate a home cooked meal, not everyone has the energy to spend three days in the kitchen slaving over “beans, greens, potatoes, tomatoes, chicken, turkey, ham, lamb…” – Release yourself from the guilt and the pressure and order in. Plenty of soul food restaurants offer traditional holiday fare. Cater and use the extra time to catch up with family and friends.
In the 50th Episode, Dr. Shante shares the Power of Proximity, offering strategies to move closer to your goals and challenges listeners to establish the conditions for their success.
In this deeply personal episode, Dr. Shante sits down with the mother of Sandra Bland, a young Chicago woman found dead in a Waller County, TX prison under mysterious circumstances. Sandy’s mom Geneva Reed Veal, shares her strength, testimony, and courage to Believe Bigger in her ongoing search for answers and justice.
The field of entrepreneurship is crowded. With so many people clamoring for limited resources, it becomes necessary to find alternative pathways to success. In this episode, Dr. Shante uses faith based examples of backchanneling, and provides strategies on how to find your own.
When you serve from a place of CALLING instead of from a place of CASHING IN, your entire trajectory will change. This episode was the opening session at The DYOB Brand Makeover Experience held October 22-25, 2015. Dr. Shante opened the event with a call to action. She admonishes the attendees and everyone listening to this episode to ANSWER THE CALL. Answering the calling over your life requires faith over fear and commitment over comfort zone.